I desire to empower people touched by adoption who sometimes find themselves stuck in discomfort; to guide the continuation of personal growth that is a part of adoption, and life itself.
Adoption is often thought of as a joyful event joining a child who needs a family with a family who needs a child. In this scenario, the birth parents — if considered at all – fade quietly into the background. But the adopted child, as he or she grows, gradually becomes aware of questions their parents can’t answer: Who do I look like? Why am I athletic while no one else in my family is? An adoptive parent reflects back to the time of placement and wonders Did the birth mother recover from the grief we saw at the hospital? And adoptive parents find that becoming parents through adoption doesn’t cure the longing for the child they might have made together, especially when your best friend announces she’s pregnant — with her fourth child!
A married couple trying to decide between adoption and additional medical treatments for infertility; birth parents who find it hard to trust in subsequent relationships; a divorcing adoptive couple feeling an extra burden for not staying together; an adoption plan that promised open communication but is stalled; an adult adoptee wanting to search for the birth family and wondering what will be found or who might get hurt in the process – these and many more are situations I’m familiar with.
In my years of adoption agency work, I frequently found it difficult to locate a therapist familiar with adoption issues when members of the adoption circle sought guidance to find and appreciate the uniqueness of their stories. Because my first training was to be a therapist, it is an easy fit for me. In group and individual sessions, using art therapy and journal writing, clients explore the personal meaning of adoption in their lives.